May 20, 2012
Does This Dress Make Me Look Fat?
You have gone shopping with your beloved wife and are waiting patiently while she tries on a few items. Suddenly she emerges from the dressing room and asks, "Does this dress make me look fat?"
Yikes! Most men believe there is no right answer to this question. And trying to avoid answering it will get you into just as much trouble as anything you might say. The only solution is to run and hide. But you're going to have to come home sooner or later, so you might as well stand your ground now.
First, realize that your wife has a reason for asking this question, and it's not just to terrorize you. She wants to know how she looks in the dress. She doesn't want to go out in public looking less than her best. She needs your help.
You don't want to insult or upset your wife, so you may be concerned that, in some cases, an honest answer will cause a problem. Some men are distracted by the fact that they and their wives have put on a few pounds since the wedding day. Maybe your wife weighs a little more than she would like. But that isn't what she's asking about. So if your first thought is something like, "It's not the dress, it's just life," suppress that thought!
Just take a good look at your wife in the dress. Let her spin around once or twice. Ask yourself: Does she look as beautiful as she always does? Or is there something about this dress that seems to detract from her appearance? You don't have to be a fashion expert to know what you see.
If the dress is causing a problem, your answer is simple. "Sweetheart, you look beautiful. But that style is not really flattering for anyone." If the dress is good, then your answer is even simpler: "Sweetheart, you look beautiful. I think you should buy it." Either way, smile.