By guest blogger Rick Reynolds
Another way to assess value is by time invested. Most people probably spend more time planning for their financial future than they do for their marital future. Why is that?
You can also assess what we value by what we protect. We don't leave money lying around, because we believe it has value and we don't want someone to take our hard earned cash for their own benefit. Those who value money work not only at protecting it, but at increasing the amount of it. They make time to create budgets and meet with investment counselors to assure a good return on their investment. They analyze companies before making investments to minimize risk.
Do you go to the same lengths in protecting your marriage as you do your money? Are you spending the same energy and effort on proactive marriage counseling? Are the contributions to your marriage equal to or greater than the contributions made to your retirement account? All too often those who stray are under invested in their relationships. Their primary contribution to the relationship is their wage, and if money provides the sum total of your investment, what's the loss if you walk away? But if you've worked together, built a home together, raised kids together, and shared life together, the size of that investment may help you see there is something worth salvaging.
Excerpted from "What are the 5 simple and proven steps that will protect your marriage?" by Rick Reynolds. Reprinted with permission.
Rick Reynolds LCSW, founder of AffairRecovery.com, a national leader in offering personalized online infidelity support as well as the free Affair Analyzer, offers tips to protect your marriage from infidelity.