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Changes!

In the next few days, Romantic Marriage will have a new name. After surveying the readers, asking my friends, and listening to my own thoughts for a while, I've made the decision. And the winner is....

For Better - Or What?

The new link is http://www.forbetterorwhat.com. The link is already working, and at the moment will direct you right back to Romantic Marriage.

I will be renaming the Facebook page, the Twitter feed, the Pinterest account, and whatever else is linked to the blog. It may be confusing for a few days, and some people may need to re-subscribe at some point. I appreciate everyone's patience and support through the transition.

Cruising the Blogs

I have collected a long list of marriage and relationship blogs. The list has grown so long that I can't keep up with all of them every week. Here is a sample of a few I've looked at within the past several days.

Patty Newbold has been writing Assume Love for over six years. Her combination of deep compassion and practical solutions to tough problems is a winner. Patty looks for solutions to problems in a way that gives both partners what they want. Her approach is designed to help people discover more love without turning marriage into hard work, and without trying to change their spouses.

Speaking of Marriage is a startup marriage blog by psychotherapist Winifred Reilly. She says that her goal is to help people "make sense of why marriage is so predictably difficult, frustrating, and seemingly impossible to navigate." She has just a few posts so far, but all are top quality. Reilly writes insightfully about the commitment it takes to stay the course, overcome the obstacles, and create something worth working for.

The Great Jollyhoombah isn't always directly about marriage, but it is all about the mindset and lifestyle choices that make a great and satisfying marriage possible. C.J. and Tammy Renzi turned their lives around and have been having a fabulous time ever since. Their readers have a lot of fun, too.

Black and Married With Kids is one of the most prolific marriage blogs I've found. Typically, there are several new posts a day. There are many different contributors, with many points of view, so the quality varies. But nearly everyone will find something of interest here, including parenting advice, celebrity news, financial information, social issues, and relationship tips.

The Gottman Institute Relationship Blog is backed up by decades of solid research. Here you will find dozens of great articles with practical advice on how to build your marriage by following the best principles, and how to avoid, or recover from, the mistakes that can tear a marriage down.

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This blog desperately needs a new name. Please click here for an anonymous survey to help me choose the best title.

Is Your Spouse About to Walk Out?

Patty Newbold recently wrote a great article about what to do if you have been blindsided by a spouse who wants to leave. She has some excellent advice for anyone whose mate has said "I love you, but I'm not in love with you," or is talking about leaving the marriage.

One reader's comment included the observation that it is, after all, the spouse who wants to stay who is the one more committed to the relationship. But things aren't always that simple.

I Need Your Opinion

The time has come to find a new name for this blog that will better express what it's all about. Please click here for a short survey to let me know your opinion about some possible titles. Thanks!

Should I Rename the Blog?

Is "Romantic Marriage" really a good fit for what I'm doing here? Is the title just too sappy to be taken seriously?

Sure, I like to write about romance, date nights, and lighthearted fun. But I also talk about the serious issues that can destroy relationships, and how to avoid or resolve them. I want to help couples with ordinary marriages make them great, and couples with great marriages to keep them that way. One of my goals here is to promote marriage education based on solid research and practical advice.

What do you think? Should I change the name? And if I do, what would be a better fit? So far, all I've come up with is Two the Hard Way. It makes me smile, but it might not be quite the message I'm looking for.