From time to time, I like to look at the statistics for my Twitter account to find out which posts resonate the most with my friends and subscribers.
I tried a service called Favstar, which uses a combination of retweets and favorites to measure which tweets are "best". This analysis lists these as the top ten during the past four months.
- Responding to spouse's unkindness with your own unkindness instantly doubles the mean quotient. Is that what you want?
- Be slow to blame and quick to apologize.
- Don't expect your spouse to be a mind reader. Say what you feel, what you want, what you think.
- Date night doesn't have to be a night. It can also be date afternoon, date morning, date lunch, etc.
- When you cheat on your spouse you are cheating your children, too.
- "Letting go of grievances is what you do when you want to stay together." Mira Kirshenbaum
- Remember, anger originates in pain. Instead of reacting to your spouse's anger, find a way to ease the pain.
- You won't get everything you want. But you will get things that are worth appreciating.
- No matter what the subject, use your tone of voice to convey love and respect.
- Don't horribilize the future with "what if" thoughts. Assume the best.
I tried another service, called My Top Tweet. This one ranks tweets based solely on the number of retweets. Using that criteria, I got a top ten list for the year to date that included four of the tweets chosen by Favstar, plus these:
- Instead of deleting texts you want to hide from your spouse, delete the contact who tempts you to send them.
- Never criticize your spouse in front of others. If you have a legitimate complaint, discuss it in private.
- A small amount of effort can have a big payoff. Do the little things that make your spouse feel loved.
- Date Night doesn't have to be expensive, it's about focusing on fun with each other.
- Guys, want more affection? Treat your wife like you did when she was your girlfriend.
- No "friendship" is worth damaging your marriage.