Your Chances of Getting Divorced

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  Half of all marriages end in divorce!

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We hear this all the time. It may or may not be quite true, but let's say it is.

Given this state of affairs, people assume that every happy couple walking down the aisle faces a fifty percent chance of ending up divorced.

And that isn't true at all.

Wait a minute. I can do the math. Fifty percent of couples tying the knot today will eventually divorce. So if I get married, I have only a fifty percent chance of making it "till death do us part." Right?

Wrong.

Nobody Has a Perfect Marriage

Your parents didn't have a perfect marriage.
Your best friend doesn't have a perfect marriage.
Your neighbors don't have a perfect marriage.
The popular girl from high school doesn't have a perfect marriage.

The president doesn't have a perfect marriage.
Your friends who are so smug about their marriage don't have a perfect marriage.
Your marriage counselor doesn't have a perfect marriage.
I don't have a perfect marriage.

Marriage is a Team Sport

by guest blogger Mark

What's Wrong With the Team?

In today's modern (post modern) culture, we have elevated individual rights and expectations to an art form. For many couples, the transition from single life to married life somehow fails to take place, and it really is "all about me." The early days, filled with chemical rushes that cause what more closely resembles mental illness than a long-term relationship filled with love, somehow become the standard for what the relationship should be like forever. These unrealistic expectations are soon dashed by very real difficulty of integrating two totally separate lives in a way that lets each contribute to the relationship.

Marriage is Saying We Are On the Same Team

by guest blogger Marie McKinney-Oates

I wish I could give everyone transcripts from arguments with my husband. Not because we're communication ninjas, but because you'd see how often we use what I'm talking about. And how often we repeat certain phrases. Like, "You suck" or "Really? You really want to try and tell me that this dish is clean. Really?"

Just kidding.

Actually, the phrase that gets tossed around most is, "I don't feel like we're on the same team right now."