Are You Being Fair?

One of my elementary school teachers told this story.

A woman had three daughters. She was determined to show no favoritism, and had dedicated herself to treating them equally and fairly at all times.

Strengthen Marriage with Online Tips

The first of John Gottman's Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work is "Strengthen Your Love Maps." This means that we should get to know our spouses better all the time, updating information that may have changed, reminding ourselves of things we may have forgotten, and learning new things about each other. The better we know the person we married, the stronger our love becomes and the better we are able to both enjoy each other and withstand stress together.

My Spouse Needs to Feel Safe

by guest blogger Alecia Starks

Last winter, Clint picked up the hobby of snowboarding. Oh, my heart couldn't take it.

I told him, "Are you sure? You're getting old. You're not as agile and athletic as you used to be."

But working out in the snow will make a person decide to give these things a try.

He had some great guys who were fairly adept at snowboarding take him under their wing and teach him their ways. It was very exciting for him.

One night he texted me and said, "I'm coming home. I got hurt. I may need to go to the ER."

Re-imagine, Re-design and Re-launch Your Relationship!

by guest blogger Larry James

After years of being together sometimes you drift away from the feelings you once had when you were first together. Usually one partner notices it before the other. By the time the other partner realizes what's happening, the partner who noticed is ready to leave the relationship and there is shock and they are left wondering what happened. Often it is too late.

Sleeping On It

Someone recently asked me to recall the worst marriage advice I had heard.

Oh, there has been so much!

Not necessarily the worst, but probably the most repeated bit of dubious marriage advice is, "Never go to bed angry." Take that seriously, and you might find yourself popping caffeine pills day and night, living in zombie-like misery, for weeks at a time. Forget it! As Lydia Netzer writes, "Sometimes you need to just go to freakin' bed."