Romance is one of those ideas, like
love,
happiness, and
enough, that mean different things to different people. For many people, romance is associated with a dramatic, high-fantasy version of relationships that may be very exciting in a paperback book or on a movie screen, but that is impossible to sustain in real life. Few of us have the time and energy to spend our days galloping along the beach on a jet-black stallion, dressing in elaborate costumes, meeting our lovers in exotic locations, and concocting secret identities, all the while letting our hair flow in the wind while our bosoms heave with passion. There is laundry to be done, the cat needs to be fed, and sooner or later someone has to go to work.
On a more realistic note,
Wikipedia tells us that the word
romance "implies an expression of one's love, or one's deep emotional desires to connect with another person." That makes sense to me. The desire to express love, to feel loved in return, and to experience a deep connection with a partner is at the heart of a happy marriage.
Please join me in exploring married life, with an emphasis on what romance really means, what it takes to create it, to keep it alive, and to rediscover it after a difficult time.
says,
, John Gottman defines romance as
